Rules & Etiquette

Please read this whole document carefully! Everyone has different social norms and party expectations, so we have attempted to be more thorough to avoid interruptions and misunderstandings on party night.

Consent

Consent is paramount. Respect for other people’s boundaries and wishes is key to creating a safe and comfortable space where people can open up and be their happiest, sexiest selves.

Consent for any play, physical or verbal, is required. A verbal ‘yes’ or clear verbal synonym for ‘yes’ indicates consent.

This also means asking permission for specific activities before attempting to initiate.

For example, ask ‘would you like a hug?’ from a distance before stepping closer, arms wide. It makes saying no much easier and more comfortable.

Other Examples of asking for consent:

  • ‘May I move my hand down to your butt?’
  • ‘Would you like to kiss?’
  • ‘My love for you is like a truck and would you like to making fuck?’
  • Ask if someone would like to interact with a Little before speaking to them in a baby voice.

Examples of giving consent:

  • ‘Hell yes!’
  • You can touch me anywhere above the waist’
  • ‘You can rub your cock anywhere except on my vulva’
  • ‘You can touch me anywhere, and slap my balls too’

Consent for one activity does not imply consent for another — ask before beginning a new activity.

This includes touching a new body part even if other parts are already being touched; also, whether ‘sex’ is understood to be happening and if penetration is a goal.

Try not to give a blanket, ‘you can do anything’, particularly with people you haven’t played with before. It not only protects you, it helps them respect your boundaries. Not everyone has the same idea of what a reasonable ‘anything’ is.

From the other side, even with blanket consent, please try and give a quick ask before doing something invasive or sudden unless that was pre-negotiated.

For example, many people do not want anything inserted into holes without warning, or to be slapped/hit/hurt out of nowhere, even if that’s part of ‘regular sex’ for you.

Consent is active — it may be withdrawn at any time from some or all activities.

Consent cannot be given if the person is intoxicated or otherwise incapacitated. Stop play and make sure the person is alright if this is the case.

While enthusiastic consent is preferred, (A ‘hell, yes!’ or a ‘yes’ with excited tone and body language), some people pushing their boundaries or with different social behavior may give a non enthusiastic ‘yes’ and still mean it.

If you are unsure, give them an out — ask if they would prefer to not do the activity.

Etiquette

  • Give scenes/play space. If you want to watch, watch from a respectful distance and try not to occupy the players’ attention (unless they indicate that is welcome).
  • Don’t interrupt scenes.
  • Don’t touch toys and items that are not yours.
  • Clean up after yourself.
  • Follow signs on equipment for instructions, and provide a sign if providing equipment.
  • Please be considerate of space and play furniture. If people want to play on it, see if you can talk or sit elsewhere.
  • Be mindful of how much space you are occupying. Particularly when using long toys, such as whips, crops, canes, etc. If on a bed, do not extend toys beyond the furniture edges.
  • Ask a party monitor if you are unsure of something.
  • Please try and eat mainly in the kitchen/bar area.
  • No glass containers in the play space — store them in the kitchen/bar area.

Allergies, Smoking & Other Notes

  • Please do not bring nuts.
  • There will be many latex sex supplies at this party.
  • No smoking or vaping in the play area.
  • We want everyone to feel the most themselves, but out of consideration for more sensitive party goers, please consider wearing less or no scents (perfumes/colognes, etc.)

Photos

No photos without explicit consent of everyone in the photo, including ‘in the background’. Use the wall.

Intoxication

  • Eutopia Rising parties are not sober. You may bring and use substances responsibly.
  • Please know your limits and take a break and/or ask for help if you become too intoxicated to play safely or give consent deliberately.
  • Be aware of your compromised abilities when undertaking activities, particularly new to you or your partners.
  • Be aware of your partners’ level of intoxication and the impact on their capacity to give consent. Decline further activity if your partner is too intoxicated and help them settle into a safe space to recover or go home.
  • The party monitors will also step in and stop play and help people recover if they observe people are too intoxicated.

Safer Sex / Cleanliness Policies

Safer sex is encouraged, but not required at this party.

Safer sex supplies such as condoms, gloves, and lube are available.

Please try and minimize your body fluid contact with furniture and sheets. Pup pads and other supplies are available. Clean up after yourself.

If sitting naked on furniture use a towel or wipe it down after you get up.

If clean sheets are available, please put a sheet on a bed before using it, and take the sheet to the laundry bin when you are done.

Vaccination & Infection Control

  • We work together to protect each other. In the interest of everyone’s safety, particularly immunocompromised and other vulnerable members of our community, we use layers of the best prevention possible against infectious diseases, besides primarily sexually transmitted ones. 
  • All our private parties will require up-to-date vaccinations and boosters against COVID-19. 
  • In addition to vaccination, you must take a rapid COVID test on the day of the party, before you arrive at the venue. Please take a photo of your negative test and submit it to us in advance, or be prepared to show it at the door.
  • We urge all of our voyagers to get a flu shot every fall. 
  • We continue to recommend a Monkeypox vaccination for those who are eligible.
  • If you are feeling at all unwell on the day of the event, please stay home. Just let us know, and we’ll be happy to offer you a full refund, and our thanks for keeping others safe.

Notes on Activities

FORBIDDEN:

  • CNC: No simulated rape, waiving of safewords, or scene/struggle that looks or sounds non-consensual and is disruptive or could be triggering to other partygoers. 
  • No Race play, no Nazis. No police costumes. 
  • No slave/master verbiage or imagery—let’s find more creative ways to play with dom/sub dynamics to create a more inclusive space.
  • Firearms/Stun Gun/Pepper Spray/Mace: Real or fake are prohibited.
  • Watersports (pee), Scat (poo), and enemas: These activities are not permitted.
  • Fireplay: No open flames in the play area.  
  • Consciousness: Do not engage in any play that leads to loss of consciousness. If someone does lose consciousness, end the scene immediately and call for help.
  • Breath Play:
    • No airflow restrictions. i.e. covering the nose/mouth with hand/material, or immersion.
    • No airflow/trachea chokes (If you’re not sure of the difference between a tracheal and a blood choke, do neither.)

ASK A MONITOR FIRST:

  • Bloodplay & needles: Only if there is a designated area, not in the main play space. Keep it hygienic.
  • Knives / sharps / edges: Use blunted blades only.
  • Blood chokes (using carotid restriction) without loss of consciousness.
  • Wax Play: If there is a designated area with a tarp. Clean up carefully.
  • Gags, hoods, and masks that prevent speech are a risk because they prevent monitors from hearing the party safe word. If play involves them, have a non-verbal safety signal.

Event Safe Word & Other Safety

  • To call for immediate assistance from a play monitor or anyone else, call out, “Safe Word”. Please remember to have a safe word or signal negotiated with your play partners. 
  • Let monitors know before particularly loud/intense scenes, or when doing any of the “yellow flag” activities listed above.